Sono arrivato a Lux qualche tempo fa e da allora ho avuto qualche difficoltà a trovare un gruppo affiatato di amici con cui mi sarebbe piaciuto trascorrere del tempo e con cui poter evadere dalla routine quotidiana.
Non fraintendetemi, sono una persona molto socievole, accessibile, coinvolgente e interagisco con MOLTE persone ogni giorno. Pratico molte attività in cui incontro molte persone, ma nessuno sembra essere disposto a connettersi a un livello più profondo. Ho la sensazione che la maggior parte delle persone che incontro al lavoro siano infelici e non sembrano essere disposte a impegnarsi in altre attività oltre a: bere, mangiare fuori, andare in palestra, tornare a casa.
Ho vissuto in posti dove, da amici, chiacchieravamo, ridevamo, a volte cucinavamo insieme, cercavamo di organizzare attività regolari come escursioni, lezioni d’arte, a volte scambiavamo libri, andavamo al cinema, ecc. Cose semplici che non ci obbligano necessariamente a spendere un sacco di soldi in cibo e bevande costantemente, solo attività belle e sane, amichevoli.
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di This_One1263
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I work in an office for private companies with only expats such as myself, and I feel like everyone there seems to be willing to appear nice but there is nothing behind. In the contrary I have witnessed a lot of backstabbing and gossiping.The people I meet through sports and activities with whom I connect usually have a family or are in a relationship and do not want to commit to dedicate time with other people on a regular basis. In sport I have come across a few Luxembourgers, I like a lot their humbleness, honest kindness and the fact that they are approachable, they have invited me to a few events I have attended but indeed at some point I couldn’t connect to them so much as : a) they were mostly speaking in Luxembourgish what I cannot understand even after taking a few classes, b) we had different life experiences: many of the ones I met were born here and had stayed around or in Europe their whole life and we didn’t have the same interest and experiences generally speaking, c) many of them were childhood friends and I felt a bit excluded from some conversation.
In the past, I would find people who would have me over at their place regularly and vice versa, we would talk, laugh, sometimes cook together, we would try to organize regular activities such as hiking, going to art classes, sometimes exchanging books, going to the cinema, etc.
I have no family or kids here. I am doing a lot of things with a lot of people but feeling alone while constantly surrounded. This is the first time in my life that I am facing such a situation … I was wondering if there were any lost souls out here such as myself? Do you have any secret tips on how to meet people sharing that kind of mindset?
Join a club of some sorts, doesn’t have to be sports if you aren’t into sports. I think I also seen something about an expat meet-up in the park at the weekends, don’t know if it still happens.
What kind of music are you into? The local music scene down in Belval (yes I know it’s far from the city but it’s the best I can do) is made up of very nice and welcoming people. There’s a wide variety of genres to be enjoyed and make friends in.
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I have seen that too. I guess we Luxembourgers like to be at home after work. And with what we paid for for our homes we have to get the most use out of it haha.
What sports are you into?
I feel the exact same way. I’m a social person, I have many friends but don’t really connect on a deeper level. It was the polar opposite back home and other countries I’ve lived in (I’m 30 btw). Been here almost 4 years now. Let’s connect.
I have been living here since 2021 and I struggle the same problem. I’m in my late thirties, I am not super extroverted but I’m not very introverted too. I like hiking, reading, latin dances, cooking, concerts, wine tasting and trying new hobbies whenever I have the chance to. I joined hobby clubs, went out, joined every kind of networking event but it didn’t happen either through finding friends or dating. In the beginning I was being told I wasn’t trying hard, but now that I followed all the previously given advices, probably it is time for people to judge me as I am the problem. I gave up recently and I am just going to accept the situation as is. I realized I can’t force people to hang out with me, if they don’t want then they don’t. I just have some communities where I can attend some activities but I know that when that hiking is over, dance night is over or the party is over, I will leave that event, go home with no real connection.
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I made best friends in Luxembourg, from the neighbourhood, we travel together and invite each other regularly for lunch/dinner/apero, you name it. But none of them are Luxembourgers though.
Welcome to Luxembourg, this is why i left. It’s not you, Luxembourg is just extremely tribal and antisocial. The local culture and the simple fact that the population is extremely low creates this problem and i strongly doubt it’ll ever go away
Seems it’s pretty common, would be nice to organize a meet up!
Hello, I am kinda “shocked” that you couldn’t build profound friendships with the folks in Luxembourg although you did a great job to socialize with people via clubs.
Also you seem like an intelligent, interesting person, is there anything holding back to create a deep connection due to bad experiences from the past ?
I honestly can’t wrap my head around the idea that you are struggling to maintain friendships. Maybe you hadn’t had the chance to find people with whom you connect and you just need to get through that “desert of loneliness.”
In any case I wish you good luck to find the right persons 🤞
It is more than normal prepare yourselves for loneliness, there is no social life in Lux, just work ho home work life, I am in same situation from 10 years and I can assure you I am the most social person you can ever meet
Hey man, I’ll be coming to lux real soon. This post seems daunting already but if you’re up for it love to talk and hang out once I’m there
Let’s organize a meet up with the people from the post, I think this is.the best we can do
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If it’s not too late can I be part of the chat?
If it’s not too late can I be part of the chat?
Hi OP, are you located in the city?
I’m in the south near Differdange. I’d love to find more people to go for walks or invite over for a BBQ and a fire.
In any case, I wish you luck!